tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1617587460049997457.post7651474612238345673..comments2015-09-14T12:38:23.114-07:00Comments on Single Me: Dating Series 1 of 6: Meeting JoyUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1617587460049997457.post-73227076671772522442013-09-13T02:20:32.889-07:002013-09-13T02:20:32.889-07:00Well, (1) I actually have the whole series written...Well, (1) I actually have the whole series written... I just have to edit it and put it online. I really didn't feel like editing 10 Pages at once when I finished writing, ha! so I couldn't write it for you if I wanted to (unless I did it all over) ;) (2) I thought maybe I advertized it in a manner that maybe made it seem like it was going to be different. (3) Thanks for you kind response! I did maybe take it as a critique, which was unfounded (obviously). As you will find, sometimes because of my struggles not wanting to be "rejected", in jobs or relationships, I find myself constantly "aware" of things that might be rejection and can be/have been wrong in my perception/interpretation of an event or conversation. Why this is an issue will become obvious though this series.<br /><br />And yes to your expereince. I am sorry you had to go through that. This is why I value honest and good communication so much between people, friends and/or romantic relationships. The females I were interested in all told me they wanted to be friends but were very good at ignoring me in-person and online.<br /><br />~Single Me (And I did change my thumbnail. I am trying to be more generic since I run four blogs through my blogger account/profile)....https://www.blogger.com/profile/06103435759220839291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1617587460049997457.post-62026569268486963222013-09-12T19:31:00.555-07:002013-09-12T19:31:00.555-07:00Oh, it wasn't a criticism! You are not under ...Oh, it wasn't a criticism! You are not under the least obligation to meet my expectations. My mother is very loving, but she believes that being honest means saying whatever you're thinking, constructive or not. I'm trying to break myself out of doing the same. :/<br />There were signs for quite some time, but every time I questioned him about it, he insisted it was nothing and would then do something extra sweet to reassure me. I still have a hard time letting go of the questions. He told me he still cared about me so much that he hoped he never saw me again. That didn't really work out for him since he lived a block from me and we went to the same church for the next 3 months, but he and his family were all very good at pretending I wasn't there. I still wonder what I could have done to warrant that.<br />Don't worry about pleasing me! I am interested in whatever you choose to write. I don't need drama. I simply find people's motivations to be the most telling part of any story.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1617587460049997457.post-33637235208025014602013-09-08T17:28:46.998-07:002013-09-08T17:28:46.998-07:00Sorry it wasn't what you expected. That is mor...Sorry it wasn't what you expected. That is more general. I have written other blogs on here that speak about that kind of thing. I find that I would often like to be friends first; however, it seems while some females like that that others want to be asked out directly, no hanging out but strait to the date invite. It is complicated. You will see exactly HOW complicated as we continue. But like I said, I wanted to start at the beginning. As the stories unfold you will see it spiral, trust me. I will also be doing a follow-up on this series with my thoughts overall about what I have been through, my thoughts after writing this series, my comments about the discussion from readers here, and some potential insights moving forward.<br /><br />I too didn't really see the point in dating until college, but I do think there is some foundation to that, those friends you might have liked but never pursued. In my mind those are the beginnings of the story.<br /><br />So, you both were friends and then things got complicated. Do you know what happened? Did he just break up with you out of nowhere or were there signs he was losing interest?<br /><br />Also, I cant believe your mom said that, not very reassuring. I always want friends to be treated with respect, but I always trying to encourage them to do better. I dont think belittling people helps.<br /><br />Thanks for the comment! There will be more to come. It sounds like you will start liking these more when I post the third one, much more drama and complications there. Next week is more about age difference and being the emotional crutch, but I didn't actually "talk" or date her, just a heads up.<br /><br />~ Single Me...https://www.blogger.com/profile/06103435759220839291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1617587460049997457.post-23954527068059452932013-09-08T17:16:26.810-07:002013-09-08T17:16:26.810-07:00I've always thought it would be really odd to ...I've always thought it would be really odd to find out someone you were interested in or dated turned out to be gay. I think I would feel fooled, or maybe that they were using me to hide that part of themselves. Sounds like you and him were close. Thanks for sharing!<br /><br />~ Single Me...https://www.blogger.com/profile/06103435759220839291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1617587460049997457.post-42135488110812246062013-09-08T16:40:26.934-07:002013-09-08T16:40:26.934-07:00Hmm, that's not what I expected. I guess I th...Hmm, that's not what I expected. I guess I thought you'd talk more about your attitude towards dating or what you wanted your relationship to be with her.<br />Personally, I always had crushes, but I never did anything about them because I felt it was absurd to date until one was at least in hailing distance of adulthood. However, Isaac and I met just as we were going through puberty and for the next 6 years we were either inseparable (as friends) or he wasn't speaking to me for some reason he never specified. He was the first guy I actually dated, but it was mostly long distance as I chose to go away to college and he broke up with me just before I came home for the summer. I never really understood our relationship or had the opportunity to go on dates in the normal fashion. My mother swore that my tolerance of the way he treated me meant I was destined to become either an abused wife or an unwed mother.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1617587460049997457.post-26726628531234740332013-09-08T15:15:11.953-07:002013-09-08T15:15:11.953-07:00His name was Matt. We hung out every day after sch...His name was Matt. We hung out every day after school. Eventually we drifted apart, not even reconnecting. In high school he came out as gay and is now in a very happy relationship. He was always the very popular guy so it was a bit of a shock when I first found out. I'm glad he is happy now, though.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02843490019234255233noreply@blogger.com